How to Say I Love You with Your Actions

The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.? ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

?Recently, Joseph pondered nontraditional ways a person can say ?I love you.? Inspired by the idea of how to say I love you with actions instead of words, he realized that expressing love through action was not only rich with meaning but boiled down to a single, valuable ingredient.

His attention first turned to the mundane event of a married couple preparing to go out to an event or on a date night with the wife asking her husband, ?How do I look?? Two scenarios popped up. In one, the husband glanced at his wife and said, ?You look great!? and then quickly returned to getting dressed and his own thoughts. He didn?t really take in his wife, consider her question, and genuinely answer. The wife went back to preparing for their evening dismissing how she felt not entirely satisfied with his answer and not completely confident in how she looked.

In the second scenario, the husband just took a few extra seconds to look at his wife, admire her, and with direct eye contact genuinely say, ?You look beautiful.? At which point his wife beamed, straightened her posture even more, and tossed her head back with confidence, saying, ?Thank you! You look quite handsome yourself!? In this moment, they both felt seen and they were beginning their evening before it started with flirting and happiness to be in each others? company.

?After pondering these two scenarios, Joseph found me to share his insight. He said, ?Giving a compliment in the context of seeing someone is very different from vaguely agreeing so you don?t have to leave the thoughts in your head or have your activity be interrupted.?

Later in the day, I ran across the Thich Nhat Hanh quote posted above, ?The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.?

The single, valuable ingredient that expressing love through action boils down to is giving the one you love your undivided attention. That means your full attention with direct eye contact and ears and heart open.

Giving someone your full attention is a way to say ?I love you? by action instead of words. And when you give your lover your attention, and really pay attention, the words that may follow have a better chance of touching the sweet spot inside your beloved that leads to playful flirting and an increase in affection and passion.

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??one of the most loving things we can do is to really see each other ? to give the gift of our full presence.? ~ Cheryl Richardson

Taking the time to genuinely see and hear each other can increase the love, respect, and friendship in any relationship, whether with the self, the other, or the Holy.

Since the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives; slowing down and paying attention to each other, with greater love and understanding being the only agenda, could potentially transform the human race.

Source: http://www.idealrelationships.com/love-actions/

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